Your loved one’s doctor is your primary partner in care. It is important that you have good lines of communication.
Unfortunately, the doctor’s time is limited.
The challenge, then, is to make the most effective use of the time you do have. Start by organizing your thoughts. Write down your questions and prioritize them so you ask the most important ones first.
Sometimes it helps to find someone you can talk with beforehand to figure out the different issues you want to address.
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Before the appointment
When you have a serious illness, many questions are likely to arise, and you have a right to the answers.
During a doctor’s appointment, however, it’s easy to get side tracked. Anxiety often runs high and can block your clearest thinking. As well, doctors have schedules to keep.
If you feel pressured during the appointment, it may be difficult to stay focused on addressing each of your concerns.
We suggest you maximize your time with the doctor by preparing for your appointments beforehand.
Here are some tips:
Write down your questions and then prioritize them (for instance, put a 1 by the most important, a 2 by the next most important, etc.).
If you see that you have many questions, you may want to call the doctor’s office and see if you can book a double appointment to be sure they all get answered.
Bring all your medications with you to the appointment. This way, if the doctor prescribes something new or if you are experiencing distressing symptoms, he or she can review your medications to be sure there is no problem with drug interactions.
When you arrive for the appointment, give the medical assistant a copy of your written questions and ask that they be put on the front of the chart so the doctor can see them.
Have someone come with you into the exam room. This person should also have a copy of the questions. He or she can take notes during the appointment and help make sure your questions have been addressed to your satisfaction.
Start by asking the doctor the most important question first, then the next most important, and so on. Stay focused on your questions. If you wander into interesting side stories you will lose valuable time.
If you hear words you do not understand, ask for an explanation. Doctors get used to their “medical shorthand” and sometimes forget that it involves words the rest of us do not understand.
When a procedure is recommended, ask about the benefits and the risks as well as any alternatives and their known benefits and risks. (See Specific questions below.)
If the doctor does not have enough time, ask if someone else on his or her staff can answer your questions. If that is not an option, then ask if you can make another appointment so you can finish. Remember, you have a right to have your questions answered.
Spend time after the visit talking with the person who came with you. He or she will likely have good insights about the appointment and can help you identify any areas that are still unclear.
You may wish to get a second opinion from another physician. Awkward as it might feel, it is a good idea to let your doctor know about your plans because the second physician will request copies of your chart, past lab reports, etc. Doctors understand that second opinions, especially in the context of serious illnesses, are a good idea. Sometimes they are required by insurance, and sometimes it’s simply something the patient needs to do to feel all options have been explored. If your doctor disapproves of your desire for a second opinion, remember that it is your health and therefore your decision to make.